One way to make good decisions in life is to pre-determine certain decisions.
In all families there are things that we wish had been different in our growing up years. We might have wished our parents had shown more affection for each other, or that the words, “I love you” had been verbalized more. We might have wanted more sports encouraged for women or more traditions insisted upon. When we get our own families we can decide in advance, “This is the way our family will be.”
We can pre-determine that when we go to certain events, we will limit ourselves to a certain time or how many drinks we will have or to whom we will speak (or not speak.) These are choices we make in advance for a desired outcome. This avoids the chaos that comes from, “We’ll see what happens when we get there.” One can pre-decide what will not happen in Las Vegas before one goes to avoid guilt or shame later before God.
In scripture we have a great example of a young man who was taken from his family as the Jews went into exile in Babylon, made into a eunuch, forced to serve around sorcerers and astrologists, and be taunted by a king’s constant tests. In order to serve God, Daniel had to get past the hurdles of offenses that might have been the normal response to such circumstances, and choose to learn about God and want to honor God.
The Bible says that, “Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s delicacies, nor with the wine which he drank; therefore he requested of the chief of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself.” Daniel 1:8. Daniel “purposed” in his heart a choice of action points. God gave Daniel favor among his superiors and Daniel excelled in physical strength as well as intellectual and spiritual knowledge.
Decide in advance who you are shaping up to be as a person of character. Determine in advance what you will do and no do in advance of certain challenges and tests to be victorious in life. Unexpected circumstances come to all of us in the course of life. Yet there are many pitfalls we can avoid by pre-deciding in advance to choose good behavior action points that won’t take us on unwanted detours in life.
Lord, Guide me in all the decisions I need to make today. Give me your wisdom concern my life. Let me make in advance all decisions that will help me today.
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