The Living Bible translation of Proverbs 19:3 states, “People ruin their lives by their own foolishness and then are angry at the Lord.” Absolutely true. People make all kinds of foolish decisions and when the resulting consequences follow, they often get mad at God for the way things are.
If someone doesn’t have a concept of a good God and a bad devil where everything good comes from God and everything bad comes from the devil, then it often leads to conclusions that God has done something to them. If bad things happen and their world view includes only God, or worse—no God, then they think it’s about trying to stay on God’s good side it doesn’t seem clear on how to do this. They live with a suspicious relationship to God wondering if they can really trust Him. If there’s no God, fate determines circumstances.
Anger is a logical response to frustrating events. The best decision we can make is to realize where that anger ultimately stems from and get mad at the source—our supernatural enemy. We do this by learning how to “get back” at the enemy, or the enemy at work in people. Jesus says to be kind to people who are our enemies and treat them with respect and pray for our enemies. These are the things that surprise a person who isn’t expecting such. These are the keys to seeing turnaround.
Realizing that an individual’s behavior stems from listening to bad behavior suggestions doesn’t mean one should continue letting a brute do damage to oneself or someone else again and again and calling it okay or, unbelievably, calling it love. All experts advise getting away from the brute and realizing how trapped the brute is in their poor behavior and making a wise decision about not putting anyone in known danger.
Having an appropriate attitude offers the middle ground of making wise decisions to set boundaries and not allowing ourselves to hate the person. Yes, we can not like the behavior. But pure hatred involves judgment. As best we can keep our hearts clear by continuing to give that person over to God for God to deal with them as He will.
Being angry at God when He is the one person that can help us in our trials and suffering doesn’t make sense. As we learn to embrace Him as the powerful God He is who loves us, then we start to see our circumstances turn around.