Does it feel like people have a lot of negative things to say about you? Accusations can stem from criticism. One way to make the accusations stop is to repent over any criticism that we have said. Then move forward without any further criticism. Forgive and bless as we go.
I grew up in a critical home. My parents believed they observed good or bad behavior. Every action defined me a good girl or a bad girl. In college, I learned psychologists basically believe people are good, with “bad” behavior points that could be corrected.
Spiritually, churches teach that people can be “saved” and then “redeemed.” This is good news. Salvation happens with a decision. However, the redeeming process, known as sanctification, occurs over many years. Our willingness to be taught determines the progress.
Some accusations miss the mark. I may know what they’re trying to accuse me of, but it simply isn’t true. A family member repeatedly may accuse me of being sarcastic. And I have had a lot of sarcastic comments to repent over. However, the Lord has really worked on this with me and there has been drastic improvement. This family member hasn’t been around to notice the change in the last 20 years. So the accusation comes from him solely, and no longer rings true. Other accusations carry truth. I bring them all to God for sorting. I want to address them all. With God, there is order and pace and progress. The Holy Spirit leads the way and offers supernatural help. He is gentle and patient as I learn to walk in new ways.
Repenting for my criticism is the start point for change. In addition to criticism, all grumbling, complaining, bragging and flattering needs to go. The Bible outlines how to speak. From Jude 16-21, “There are grumblers, complainers, walking according to their own lusts, and they mouth great swelling words, flattering people to gain advantage. But you, beloved, remember the words which were spoken before by the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ: how they told you that there would be mockers in the last time who would walk according to their own ungodly lusts…But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.”
As we cease criticizing, we pivot forward to build our faith, pray in the Holy Spirit, and operate in the love and mercy of Jesus. From here, the accusations have no place to land.