Forego the Pity Party and Align with God’s Action Plan

Pity Parties are Dangerous Because Jezebel Always Attends. Forego the Pity Party and Align with God's Action Plan for Your Life.

Pity Parties are Dangerous Because Jezebel Always Attends. Forego the Pity Party and Align with God’s Action Plan for Your Life.

When we don’t get everything the way we want, it can be tempting to throw a pity party.  The problem is that Jezebel always comes to our pity parties.

Ahab’s offer to buy Naboth’s vineyard got refused. “Naboth said to Ahab, ‘The LORD forbid that I should give the inheritance of my fathers to you! (1 Kings 21:3 NKJV).” Jezebel came and asked dejected Ahab what the matter was.  Next, the good man Naboth was murdered.

Note that Naboth was holding on to his inheritance.  He inherited the field and intended to pass this down to his children.  As our blessings flourish, they become enviable to others. Naboth held his ground before the Lord. We must guard our inheritance from the Lord in prayer, and take the authority Jesus delegated to us in Luke 10:19. “Behold I have you authority to trample upon snakes and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy and nothing shall by any means harm you (Luke 10:19, NKJV).” This is the word of the Lord. This is the authority on which we stand. This is the power to walk victoriously.

In another example, Elijah had just defeated 450 Baal prophets before the people of Israel and declared “The LORD, He is God! The LORD, He is God! (1 Kings 18:39, NKJV).” Then Elijah ran for his life from Jezebel, and prayed that God would take his life.  An angel arrived before Jezebel found Elijah.  The angel spoke kindly and gave him food and rest.

Then God dialogued with Elijah.  God gave Elijah facts he didn’t know. “Yet I have reserved seven thousand in Israel, all whose knees have not bowed to Baal, and every mouth that has not kissed him (1 Kings 19:18, NKJV).”  And God assigned Elijah some prophetic duties.  Game On! Time to move out (take action) armed with updated information.

So the next time it’s tempting to throw a pity party, remember that Jezebel might come, and call it off.  Research the facts.  Armed with data God provides (or directs us to), it’s time to get back to the “work” of our destinies and purpose.

Love the Waiting Process to Keep Your Promise Fruitful

Laban and Jacob negotiate.  Learning to love the process while waiting for the promise to be fulfilled. Photo:

Laban and Jacob negotiate. Learning to love the process (Leah) while waiting for the promise (Rachel) to be fulfilled. Photo:

Many of us have had amazing prophetic words and we haven’t seen them come to pass yet.  Getting to our promise is often a process.  Today’s reminder is to not hate the process.

Jacob loved Rachel and got Leah first.  He was promised Rachel, but Leah became the process.  The Bible says he hated Leah.  “When the Lord saw that Leah was unloved, He enabled her to have children, but Rachel could not conceive (Genesis 29:31, NLT).” In other words, when God saw that Leah was hated, he made Rachel barren.  When we hate the process God has us in, the promise remains barren.

Leah conceived and bore Jacob 4 boys. Here are the names and what they mean:

1. Ruben – The Lord has looked on my affiction

2.  Simeon – The Lord has heard that I am unloved.

3.  Levi – Now my husband will become one with me

4.  Judah – Now I will praise the Lord

Interesting to note that the lineage to Jesus was carried through Judah.

We might not like the process God has us on while we wait for a word to come forth. But we might try to tolerate the process.  It is in the process that we…

1.  Learn to see Him

2.  Learn to hear Him

3.  Learn to be at one with Him

4.  Learn to praise Him

When we learn to love our process, God develops our character to see Him, hear Him, be at one with Him and praise Him.

Sometimes the promise isn’t what we thought it would be (Rachel,) and we realize that the lineage (promise of generations) came through the process (Leah.)

This year many prophets are saying there will be fulfillment of God’s promises. Hopefully we learned the lessons to see Him, hear Him, be at one with Him, and praise Him.  It is in the fullness of character development that the promise is fulfilled.


May this year bring the fulfillment of God’s promises to you as we appreciate, and grow to love the process. May we never forget what how we learned to see Him, hear Him, be one with Him and praise Him.

Opening the Gates of Divine Marriage for 2018

Opening the Gate of Kingdom Marriages. Photo:

Opening the Gate of Kingdom Marriages. Photo:

During a prayer meeting on the first weekend of the New Year 2018, a friend of mine requested prayer for a marriage partner.  She has prayed this prayer before.  She said one prayer partner had seen gates that were locked and guarded by angels.  She could tell there were kingdom marriages on the other side, lots of them.  And many other marriages as well. We asked God what it would take to unlock the gates.


What came to me was the need for Christians to repent for what they once had.  2 Chronicles 7:14 says God cares about what His people are doing, and He listens. He knows what the others are doing.  But what do His people want and ask God to do for them and their society? God had been giving His children to one another in marriage for centuries.  But over the last generation or so, there has been some things that Christians have done in marriage that need to be repented for, in order for God to open the gates again.


I felt qualified to pray since I came from a divorced home of Christian leaders.  There was great delay in getting my prayers for a husband answered. Consequently I have wrestled with the question, “Why?” I started with forgiveness of my parents and took it up the family lines from there.  Then I changed the reasons I was asking God for a spouse to be more what He had in mind for my marriage.  This made a huge difference for me and meeting my (now) husband.  As I started to pray for my friend and “this gate,” I started to pray on behalf of where things are statistically with Christian marriages.


Here’s what came to mind:


1.         I repent for the broken promises of Christians made before God in marriage vows.

2.         I repent for not appreciating the gift that marriage is, and opting for what seemed like easier options than the tough work of making marriage work.

3.         I repent for the impact Christian divorce left for our children and our children’s children.  The decisions to break up marriage leave a legacy to future generations. It sets a pattern in place that only God can heal.

4.         I repent for those who compromised on God’s laws after they were married and tainted marriage before God.

5.         I repent for those who make marriage an idol in society right now.

6.         I repent for those who took an “Easy Out.”  I repent for commitment weakness.

7.         I repent for those who didn’t seek God’s purposes for their marriage and saw their marriage as something that was merely there to meet their needs.

8.         I repent for those who never saw themselves as their spouse’s “helpmate” to carry out God’s purposes for their marriage.

9.         I repent for those who didn’t seek God’s help in making their marriages work.


As we repent for these things on behalf of many, it may be a needed step in opening the gates for Kingdom marriages to flourish. May the Lord bless these marriages to be all that God designed them to be.  Let the divine connections flow in 2018.